Updated: Jun 24
I met my Fiancé at work... it was love at first sight. 1 year after we started dating I found out that I was pregnant... I was 18 years old. I was so scared to tell my parents and very nervous of what they would think, but once I told them, they were nothing but understanding and supportive towards me and my partner. My pregnancy was wonderful when I think back about it, I didn’t have morning sickness whatsoever and everything was perfectly fine… until I was 31 weeks and 3 days pregnant. That day I went for a regular check up at the OB/GYN and he told me that everything was looked good and that the baby looked healthy. That same day, just a few hours later, I was eating my dinner and I suddenly felt a gush of liquid running down my pants. The first thing I thought was “my water broke!!” but when I stood up everything was covered in blood.
I was panicking and called the doctor right away who instructed us to go the hospital immediately. Once we got there, a nurse asked me to first fill out papers and to sit and wait for the doctor but I didn’t sit because I had so much blood in my pants. When she asked me why wasn’t sitting down I told her that I was bleeding. She then immediately rushed me to a room and was followed by another group of nurses and doctors. I was panicking even more because I couldn’t feel my baby move... I thought I lost her until I heard the heartbeat. It was music to my ears. The nurses couldn’t stop my bleeding and while doing an ultrasound they realized that my placenta had detached from my uterus so they rushed me to have an emergency c-section. The doctor later explained that any delay in getting me into the operating room that day could have been life threatening for our child. Samantha was born weighing 2 lbs and 10 oz and needed oxygen because her lungs weren’t mature enough. She spent 41 days in the NICU with more downs that ups. She had episodes of apnea were she lasted almost a minute without breathing. It was terrifying to watch my new baby turn blue.
After I gave birth, my doctor told me that I had been suffering from preeclampsia which caused my placental abruption. I had to stay almost a week in the hospital because my blood pressure and white blood cells were too high. Even though both I and Samantha had recovered, I was very scared to take her home but after more than a month apart, we brought our baby girl home along with her apnea machine, just in case.
13 months later and Samantha is a healthy, happy, chunky baby and such a joy for us and our families! Unfortunately I have suffered from PTSD after her premature birth and all of the complications and as a result I am scared for any future pregnancies... Right now my fiancé and I are just enjoying our beautiful baby girl and thankful that she is healthy. She wasn’t planned and her father and I were very young when she arrived but we are so happy to have her in our lives. When we first found out I was pregnant we were both very nervous to tell our parents but my advice to any other teen Moms is, don’t be scared to tell them, you’ll need their support to make it work. Just keep in mind that they will likely be disappointed at first and it might take time to accept it but eventually you’ll need to find a way to work together to best support your child. I’m so lucky to have such a supportive family, they love Samantha so much - they even get annoyed when I don’t bring her over to visit often enough!
Darlines, Mom of Samantha (New Jersey, USA)
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